Last month, I wrote this...
"Get ready for this ladies, it may strike a cord...
Your husband isn't meant to be everything to you.
Some may be appalled at the statement. But I believe it to be true. God made a sort of spiritual keyhole in you that only he can fill. I'll be completely honest, I had a lot of trouble with this, and sometimes I still do. I am always wanting more, which seems like something my dog inherited from me. We always want more cuddles, more conversations, more kisses on the forehead just more attention from The Mr. Not that he doesn't give enough. He is amazing and much more than I ever imagined a marriage could be! But sometimes, and especially when I am feeling bad because of the Endometriosis, I just need comfort. The problem is, he gives so much and sometimes... its just not enough. It comforts, but doesn't fill up my "love tank" completely, which is a horrible feeling. UNTIL I figured out that it's not entirely The Mr.'s love tank to fill. I was combining all my love into one tank when it should be one love tank for the Mr. and one love tank for God. That, my friends, works sooooo much better!
The Mr. shouldn't have the responsibility of making me feel entirely complete. He can give only what he can, and the rest was what I should've been pulling from God. I don't know if this makes sense to you as it does to me, but this revelation changed my whole view on things. I now am happier and feel more loved that I visualized separating the two loves into the two love tanks. And this may sound like a ridiculous example as I'm typing, I realize. But it best describes how I see it in my brain.
So, for this month, as I link up with Amberly over at Life with Amberly and Joe, my goal will be to make sure that I can recognize which "love tank" needs to be filled. To not be cranky with The Mr. when it's just ole quality quiet time I need with my heavenly father!
God promises to never leave you. ” I will never leave you nor forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5)"
And this month, I can say that I'm still working on this! These past couple of months have been a bit trying for The Mr. and I. We have had a couple of major things going on, nothing terrible, just "trying" is the best word I can think of to describe this period of our lives. I am so incredibly thankful that God gave me a man with such a gentle spirit because He knows he made me to be a firecracker! Ha!
With it being "trying" time, it seems like when I get overwhelmed, I may or may not become a little more needy..... Ok, YES, I become more needy! And it doesn't make sense, and it's hard to deal with me, and then temper flares, and it's just a crappy time! I need to learn to be more "Needy" with God, and not with my sweet Mr. And this is hard, y'all! It's like a lifetime of habits need breaking and new habits to rebuild. It won't happen overnight, but it's going to happen! That also sets me on edge a bit because I have zero patience so I want these habits to change and rebuild in an hour! (Firecracker part coming out there)
Back in January, my word of the year was "Relax", at this point, I think it should change into a phrase of the year, and right now it needs to be "Qui Sera Sera"! Seriously!
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This is such a great thing to remember! It's so easy to expect our husbands to fulfill our ever need. Sure he should fulfill some needs, but it isn't fair to put God's job and responsibility on a man. He just simply cannot take God's place in our heart!
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