Today's post won't be much of a post. Yesterday we visited Chris' family after church. It was fun and Ginny got along with the other dog and acutally played! We were finally seeing a somewhat normal dog! After hours of her playing, not 5 minutes after we left she was out cold!
Today will be cleaning/railroading this messy house and prepping for this week's meals. It will also be me hoping and praying this migraine stays away!
How was your weekends?
There was the cutest little coffee place on the North Shore of Oahu that we loved! The Coffee Gallery in Haleiwa. If you are ever on the island, go there! The one thing I ordered almost every time was a drink called The Chocolate Monkey, or maybe some other name... now that I'm thinking about it, I can't recall the exact name but it's something like that, and it is delicious! Just enough sweet with the chocolate to tame the sweet tooth, but still half healthy with the banana, and the peanut butter gives you protein to make it through the day!
Here's the approximate recipe- adjust it to how you like it!
The Chocolate Monkey
1 banana- peeled
1tsp Cocoa powder
1Tbsp Peanut Butter- Mine is probably closer to 2.
1 cup Almond Milk- Vanilla
1 Handful of ice cubes
2Tbsp Flax Seeds (optional)
Throw all that into your blender, blend until smooth & there you have it!
This is delicious enough to make it your to-go breakfast for any weekend plans you may have! Hope y'all have a fun weekend!
So, I stated that I must attend both teams at a home game before I even think about picking one. A few weeks ago, we attended a Cubs game with the in-laws. I definitely see the charm in Wrigley Field. The ivy growing on the walls, how we sat at the top in outfield but still felt very much a part of the game, hearing- and seeing the Chicago street hustle and bustle, it was nice!
Now, I don't really follow baseball like I do my SEC football, but I have decided that... I really can't decide right now! Both games we attended, it's the end of the season, half of the seats were empty, I mean I could go on & on, but it's hard to just choose one team! Of course I want to pick a good team that will win a lot, which everyone says the Cubs are notorious for loosing, so that's a point for the Sox, Husband is a huge Sox fan, most of his friends and family are Cubs fans, Wrigley Field is adorable, but US Cellular is nicer, ahh! So I'm undecided until maybe next year!
Do you guys follow any sports along side your significant others or are you guys a house divided?
Her update: She's doing well! She's settled in the apartment and we have our routines down. She doesn't play. Like never plays with toys or anything. The most excitement we get is with the laser pointer- she chases it, but it's not a play chasing, it's like a catch and destroy type. She may walk by her toys and squeak them once or twice, then walks away. She's just a lazy Maw-Maw dog! Oh, and if we've been out running errands and come back in, she gets super excited and her whimper sounds like her squeak toys, but it's a massive lick attack for about 5 minutes. SO I know there is excitement at times, but most of the time, she just wants to be pet and cuddled and loved...every second of the day. She will nudge your hand if you stop and if you don't' continue, she walks away! I mean, is this lady a diva or what? Ha!
She also is super smart and knows when something is different. Like the night that I turned off the ceiling fan... this is what happened ALL NIGHT when she passed through the living room or even thought about the fan...
It's hard with adoptions, because you don't really know what they have been though. Maybe she was punished with her previous owners about chewing on things or playing, so she doesn't do it now. We're not sure, but we love her the way she is... diva attitude and all!
My goal seemed simple in the beginning, but it's proving to be a challenge for me. I'm not giving up though! I can do this! Philippians 4:13 is going up as my chalkboard message this week!
How are your goals going this month? Comment below!
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This past week, my lovely Kenyan friend Grace, who we met on our Expat Explore European tour this past January, she posted this amazing video on Facebook (from Youtube) and I just have to share. Now, the first couple of minutes is kind of awkward, like who is this guy telling me this? HA! But, give it a few minutes, and it gets so much better! It is nice to be reminded that as women, we are pretty amazing creatures! By the end, I was so moved and almost in tears!
I hope this brightens your day, my friends!
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"I would be an eagle, I think- or some kind of dolphin."
I am sure yall have seen all of the super cute hair tutorials that are all over Pinterest lately. All promise to be easy to replicate, just 5 steps, blah blah blah. I get sooooo excited when I see them thinking to myself, OH! I can totally do this one and it won't take all day? Say whaaaaa?? So I click, and click, and click. And on every, single, one, it says to do what? TEASE. Tease your hair, backcomb, rattail, whatever word they use, they all want me to purposefully damage my hair to make this one hairdo. I just can't do it! My hair is fine in texture. I have a lot, and half of it is board straight, the other is spastic and thinks it can curl which turns out to wavy funky strands. But it is mine. And I have enough issues with it being this way that I can't bring myself into causing even more damage and problems. I also try to stay away from the blow dryer, curler, and flat iron as much as I can, but there is days where a gal just wants nice hair! So I give in. Which is fine when my hair is semi short, so I can keep trimming away the dead and no biggie. However, times like now when I've decided to grow it out a bit, I must be vigilant in protecting this mop.
So, back to the teasing. How can I get controlled volume when/where I want it? I've decided this... after my morning workout, I leave my hair wet, spray a little leave in conditioner, and let it go for a few hours. when it's mostly dry, I spray in my coconut oil mist and start with a wide comb to detangle, then use my boars hair brush to finish getting it tamed. And I just leave it down. Maybe a bobby pin or two if my bangs are getting on my last nerve, but that's it.
This is where the magic happens, right before bed during my bathroom procedure, I spray a little more leave in conditioner- ok pause here. My hair is also extremely dry throughout the entire shaft, so I need as much moisture as I can possibly get, hence all the leave in usage. Resuming- Spray a little leave in, one final brush out and then I French braid it. Yes, just like when you were a young girl, and yes, it does make you revert back to middle school cheerleading days when it was actually cool to French braid your hair and read The Babysitters Club books.
In fact, it stays braided the next day even when I do something... say like hiking a mountain in Hawaii with this handsome guy!
Having layers and fine hair, I just do one braid down the middle, sometimes two, but I'm sure you can do two if your hair is thick or super long. I use my soft hair ties that I made in this tutorial so it's not so tight it leaves a big dent where you put it.
Fast forward to the next morning, not only is my hair an un-birds nest because of flailing around all night, but it's wavy! It looks like I spent an hour + making these waves with a heat tool! I can literally just take the braid down and go. Bam. Problems solved and hair saved! Try it! Your hair will thank you!
There are days that I think I need to wear a sign that says- I have Endometriosis and cannot have kids, stop asking (my story is in the works, it's just a tough one to type out). Other days, God gives me more grace than that to handle the whole situation, and I can explain it all with a smile on my face. Fact is, for us, being 30 and married and NOT having kids really encourages others to ask why, when will you have kids? do you even want kids? what's the deal? And honestly, when I get asked that question, even if it's someone who I've known forever, it's like they just sucker punched me in the gut. Infertility is hard people! If I want to talk about it with you, I will, no need to poke and prod me- the doctors do that enough! :)
So, I thought I'd share a little infertility etiquette. Some folks may think they are problem solvers and mention certain things to you that the think you haven't thought of. Trust me, I have researched everything I could get my eyes on for thousands of hours over the course of 12 years, your suggestion is nice, but not needed. And I understand that once someone knows about your situation, they offer advice from a good place in their hearts. And for that I am thankful that they care. But just know that each statement brings back a flood of pain that we just didn't want to deal with at that moment. Here are some statements and or questions you really should keep to yourself:
God will bring you a baby when you're ready.... Yes, I know this. God and I have had many many many long conversations/pleads/begs/emotional outbursts/hissy-fits about this subject. I know.
Have you guys thought about adoption.... With my case, after the doctors seeing that the only way to give me my life back was a radical hysterectomy, me having my own child is out of the window and so of course we have thought about adoption- it's the only way we will get a kid.
Did you freeze your eggs... No, why- did you freeze yours? I mean come on, this is like asking a guy if his sperm is swimming good. Way too personal.
I'm pregnant! Yay! You can babysit any time you want!...We are happy about your pregnancy, we truly are, but no, babysitting your child will not make me feel any better about the fact that I don't have one. Thanks though. And be cautious in your words- I understand everyone is excited about it, but if that is the only topic of conversation for the duration of the pregnancy- I will not want to talk to you. It might be petty, but I don't think it's too much to ask for other topics in conversation at least half the time.
Just relax... it will happen when it's supposed to.... Did you just seriously tell me to relax? The old cave woman DNA tells us to have kids and nurture our family. You have that threatened or abolished and then have someone tell you to relax. Not gonna happen.
Just think, you'll be able to travel, have money, sleep late, do anything you want without kids!... Do not minimize the problem and please do not think, for one second, that I'd rather have all worldly possessions and opportunities instead of a child. Do I seem that shallow to you?
Maybe some people aren't meant to be parents...How cruel are you? Do you think God thinks I'm such a bad person that I can't be trusted with a child? Am I any worse than parents who abuse their children? Who sell them off to human traffickers? Don't you think God would've prevented the pregnancies in women who just planned on getting an abortion in the first place? Infertility is a medical condition, not a punishment from God.
Don't make dumb jokes just because you don't know what to say... Don't joke about "Oh I'll donate sperm or eggs" I do not want your sperm or eggs! If you don't know what to say, just say something nice like, "I'll keep you in my prayers" and that's it. Change the subject!
You're so lucky you don't have to push a baby out/have swollen ankles/gain 50 pounds/be overly emotional...Don't complain about your pregnancy... Fact is, I'd trade places with you in a heart beat. Don't be inconsiderate.
Like I said before, infertility is hard. Unless you've been through it yourself, please don't tell me what we should or shouldn't be doing. I've never been and never will be pregnant so I won't order you around about your pregnancy. Deal? Deal.
And this may seem angry. Truth is, most women who have trouble with infertility are angry when others speak so nonchalantly about it! We have a daily battle with the Devil telling us this and that, we may have a pity party and cry about it, we may have jealousy issues at times, and many more bad things and thoughts because our hearts are breaking about this issue. The only thing that keeps me going is knowing God has a plan for my life. Maybe it's to raise awareness about Endometriosis, or to help a fellow gal through her surgeries and infertility issues, to offer comfort to who ever needs it- wife, husband, even friend to the couple with the infertility issues. And maybe it's God's plan that I don't pass this down to a daughter because honestly, knowing that I could pass Endometriosis down, would absolutely break my heart. There is no way on God's green earth that I would wish this on anyone, much less my own child.
There are millions of ladies going through infertility issues, all I ask is that you read over these and hopefully never say these to those ladies again. Be considerate, be truthful, but come from a place of God, put yourself in her shoes and choose your words carefully. Hey, sometimes we don't need words, just a hug will do!
To hold you over, I'll share a few photos with ya!
Frankenstein- Edgar Winter Group
How great thou art- Any version, but the Carrie Underwood one is sticking with me.
Brown eyed girl- Van Morrison
Oh, how he loves us- David Crowder Band
Barrel of a 45- Shinedown
Somewhere over the rainbow- Iz
Mozart's final piano concerto - No. 27 in B flat major, Allegro (first movement)
Sittin on the dock of the bay, Otis Redding
Wonderful Tonight, Eric Clapton
Of course, Free Bird, Lynyrd Skynyrd. If you live in the south, you pretty much associate this song with your childhood. :)
This list was extremely hard to make! I love music, it comforts me, hypes me up, mellows me out...it gives me what I need, when I need it. It's a great relationship! So of course my first (and only so far) tattoo was this...
I want to know... what role does music play in your life? And what's one of your very favorite songs? Comment below!
What's your favorite thing about where you live? My favorite thing about where I live is the huge nature preserve that's right down the road. Don't get me wrong, I love that it takes me 5 minutes to get to any and every store I could possibly ever need, and the fact that it takes Husband 2 minutes to get to work... but I am a country girl at heart and need wide open spaces. I need to look at the horizon and see nothing man-made, and the nature preserve gives me that. Plus, they have a nice fishing pond!